Ghosts are Illusions; Your Soul Isn’t
The spirits we chase could be the echoes of our own unhealed pain.
Learn how to check the soul specifications before choosing a life or a partner.
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The showroom dazzles, the rituals soothe, |
The Aisles
In the vast marketplace of human suffering, we often find ourselves wandering down two very different aisles.
One aisle is dimly lit, smelling of incense and ancient parchment, filled with spells, charms, and ritual. The other is bright and sterile, lined with clinical charts and prescription bottles.
One whispers of supernatural intervention; the other speaks of PTSD and cognitive behavioural therapy.
For too long, we have been told to choose one.
Truth is, the most dangerous ailment of all doesn't live in either aisle.
It lives in the showroom, the gleaming, polished world of appearances, where we forget that the most critical component of any human being is not their body.
It is their soul.
The Misdiagnosis: When Trauma Wears a Ghost's Mask
Let’s begin with a story.Someone endured a decade of emotional, physical, and financial abuse. A soul-crushing divorce stripped them of everything they had built. Their spirit, once vibrant and alive, ran on fumes.
In desperation, they were told they were “possessed” either by a supernatural presence or by the subtle forces of the outside world: the envy, betrayal, gossip, and manipulations of those closest to them.
They spent years and a fortune on treatments meant to expel the unseen, to appease spirits, to cleanse themself. They prayed, visited healers, followed rituals meticulously, and even travelled to sacred places seeking relief.
Yet the presence remained. Why?
Because it wasn’t a spirit or an external malice alone or at all. It was trauma, pain unresolved, grief unprocessed, fear unacknowledged. They are neither haunted by the unseen nor the seen; they were haunted by themselves. The companion lurking behind her wasn’t a demon, ghost, or vindictive neighbour; it was the shadow of her own unhealed self.
They spent years and a fortune on treatments meant to expel the unseen, to appease spirits, to cleanse themself. They prayed, visited healers, followed rituals meticulously, and even travelled to sacred places seeking relief.
Yet the presence remained. Why?
Because it wasn’t a spirit or an external malice alone or at all. It was trauma, pain unresolved, grief unprocessed, fear unacknowledged. They are neither haunted by the unseen nor the seen; they were haunted by themselves. The companion lurking behind her wasn’t a demon, ghost, or vindictive neighbour; it was the shadow of her own unhealed self.
This is the tragedy of misdiagnosis. We often treat the symptom, the anxiety, insomnia, emptiness, or the feeling of being “drained” with exorcisms, rituals, or magical fixes. But the root cause lies deeper: a psychological wound left unattended, a fire that no candle, charm, or prayer alone can fully extinguish.
Trauma has a way of wearing a mask, borrowing the language of folklore, superstition, or even modern myths, because that is what our culture, our fears, and our beliefs have taught us to recognise. And when that mask is misidentified, the real suffering, the silent echo of our own pain, remains invisible.
Healing requires more than cleansing or banishing. It requires acknowledgement, understanding, and integration. It requires courage to sit with the uncomfortable truth: that the haunting is internal, and the only way forward is to face it, gently, persistently, with honesty and care.
Only then can the delicate and complex engine of the soul be brought back to life. Rituals and occasionally seeking professional help won't cut it. The key element lies in practicing self-compassion, taking time for reflection. That's what true ritual is all about.
The lesson is universal:
the things that feel like ghosts, curses, or possessions may often be the unseen wounds of our own hearts, or the heavy interference of those around us.
Recognising this is not a denial of culture or spirituality, it is an invitation to meet the shadow within, to give it voice, and to finally let it rest.
Sometimes the spirits we chase are only echoes of the pain we’ve never let ourselves feel. True liberation comes when we stop exorcising the phantom and start healing the wound.
The Ultimate Tender: Choosing a Partner by Soul-Specifications
This brings us to the most critical decision we ever make: choosing a life partner. And here, we apply the same flawed logic.
Many people walk into the relationship showroom and are dazzled by the exterior. They see a beautiful body, a good-looking face, status, bank account, and a charming personality. They sign the papers, drive the car off the lot, only to find themselves stranded a few years later.
The engine won't start.
The soul is dry.
A relationship with a partner whose spirit is arid is a journey through a desert. There is no resonance, no shared vibration, no water to sustain you.
Many people walk into the relationship showroom and are dazzled by the exterior. They see a beautiful body, a good-looking face, status, bank account, and a charming personality. They sign the papers, drive the car off the lot, only to find themselves stranded a few years later.
The engine won't start.
The soul is dry.
A relationship with a partner whose spirit is arid is a journey through a desert. There is no resonance, no shared vibration, no water to sustain you.
It doesn’t matter how beautiful the car is if the engine has no horsepower. It doesn’t matter how perfect the partner looks on paper if their soul has no depth.
You can't build a life with someone spiritually bankrupt. You can only survive.
This is why we must learn to choose based on soul specifications. Before checking others, ensure your own engine is tuned; growth and healing are a prerequisite for meaningful connection. Then, look past the paint job and check the engine:
- Emotional horsepower: How do they handle stress and conflict?
- Spiritual mileage: Have they done the work to heal their own traumas?
- Fuel source: Do they run on ego and validation, or on empathy and self-awareness?
- Maintenance history: Are they willing to work on themselves, to grow, to be serviced?
These are rare specifications. They are hard to find because they are not seen; they are felt. They are not built; they are cultivated.
The Unpurchasable Wealth: Building a Resilient Soul
And this leads us to the final, most profound truth. Your wealth, your car, your house; these are assets. They can be acquired, lost, or replaced.But your soul? Your spirit? Your essence? That is something you can only build.
It is the one true asset you take with you. And like any great construction, it requires a plan, strategy, good materials, and an unbreakable spirit. It requires you to face your own traumas and shadows, integrate them, not exorcise them. It requires you to choose a partner not to fix you, but to build with you.
The person in the story is still searching for a mechanic to fix their car. They are paying for oil changes and new tyres, hoping the car will run, not realising the engine itself needs a complete rebuild. The greatest tragedy is not being haunted; it is refusing to do the work to become whole.
So, the next time you feel lost or when you meet someone new, stop looking at the showroom. Pop the hood. Check the soul specifications.
Because in the end, the journey of life is not about arriving in style. It's about having an engine strong enough and resilient enough to get you there.
FOR THE ONE WHO FEELS IT
Trauma can masquerade as a haunting. Some hauntings aren’t spirits. They are the echoes of unhealed trauma. Face the shadow within, and let your soul breathe again. The ghost you chase may be the shadow you’ve never faced.
