The Myth of Healing

Are We Trying to Fix What Was Meant to Be Felt?

Letters from the Endless – Soul Reflections Series

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Everywhere we turn, someone is offering to “heal” us.

• Crystal workshops.
• Breathwork retreats.
• 5-step trauma rewiring courses.

Healing has become a market.
A brand.
A badge of honour.

But what if some pain isn’t meant to be healed?
What if it’s meant to be lived through?

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Pain Is Not a Problem to Solve

In a world addicted to comfort,
pain is seen as a flaw — something to eliminate.
But not all wounds are errors.
Some are sacred initiations.

They arrive not to destroy.
They appears to strip away the false layers that no longer serve us.

Trying to heal too fast is like picking a fruit before it ripens.
You don’t fix the seed by cutting it open.
You let it break naturally… and become.

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When Healing Becomes Escapism

Many “healing journeys” are just spiritual detours.
We want to bypass the ache, the rage, the grief.
But healing isn’t aesthetic.
It isn’t clean.

It doesn’t always come with incense and soothing music.
Real healing feels like being lost.
It feels like nothing is working.
It feels like dying.

Because parts of you are.
And that’s necessary.

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The Danger of the Healing Identity

Some wear “I am healing” as identity.
It becomes a comfort zone.
A reason to not step into wholeness.
Or worse — to define themselves by the wound.

But healing is not a personality.
It’s a process.
And the process is not always poetic.

Sometimes it’s ordinary.
Sometimes it’s boring.
Sometimes… it simply ends.

And then you live.

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What If Nothing’s Wrong With You?

Not every ache is trauma.
Not every emotion is a disorder.

Maybe you’re not broken.
Maybe you’re just alive.

To feel deeply in a shallow world
is not a sickness.

It’s a sign you are awake.
Maybe the work is not to “heal” but to honour
what you’ve survived,
and what you’ve become in the process.

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From Fixing to Feeling

So how do we know if we’re healing, or hiding?
Ask yourself:

• Am I using healing to numb or to know?
• Am I avoiding pain, or learning to hold it gently?
• Am I escaping, or arriving?

Because the real healing doesn’t feel like achievement.
It feels like homecoming.
To a self that was never broken —
only waiting to be felt.

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You don’t need to be healed to be worthy.

You just need to be willing…

to stay present with what hurts,

without turning away.

Not all pain is punishment.

Some pain is a doorway.

And on the other side is not perfection—

but a quieter, softer you.

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